Utah Kinda Bums Me Out – Odds Are It Depresses You, As Well – Utah Moodswings and Religion, With Bonus Jesus Stuff
Posted By JM Bell on November 29, 2007
Ah the lethargy of Utah. Hoo Hum. New License Plate Idea:
UTAH
Life Medicated
According to this morning’s news papers, radio reports and television “news,” Utah is depressed. In fact, Utah is the most depressed populous in the country. Now, I am sure that there are are a couple of bus load of Prozaced GOP lawmakers on the hill that will deny this report (much like dental and vision care for the poor, disabled and elderly), but, the simple fact that Utah is full of sad people is, if you pay any attention at all, plain truth.
Part of it, as I recall from my childhood, has to do with finding yourself unable to live up to the dominant religion’s expectations of you and your behavior. This is not a sweeping criticism if the COJCOLDS, by any means, more a reflection on what happens when you let someone else’s definition of Jesus and his ministry destroy your sense of humor.
This is certainly not just a Mormon thing, either, but, for my progressive and liberal friends: how many times do you walk away after some family function feeling like you were just mentally and spiritually violated by a Mack Truck? And for my conservative friends: think back to your last family get together … remember that member of your family who leans to the left? You know … The Liberal? When you and nearly every other member of your family stood in a line to tell him he was going to hell and threatened to shove a Turkey leg up his ass because he asked you tell him HOW gay marriage would destroy America … do you think maybe you were being a bunch of assholes? No? Didn’t think so.
But this certainly doesn’t explain why Utah is so depressed, does it? I mean, the State is full of Republicans, so, what’s the problem? Guilt?
I’ve written about this before.
The ministry of Christ, his message of love and forgiveness, seems to be a major sticking point for self purported “Christians”.
Conversations with family about Christ’s message vs. Religious hatred and condemnation always end up with someone in my family slapping down the “It’s in the bible” card.
I have often remarked that the Gospels of Christ in the New Testament would be far less powerful without the context of the Old Testament to show you what the world was like when Jesus came.
I have always believed that Christ’s visit; his life, example and message, as well as his ultimate murder at the hands of the Romans to give us the chance of repentant redemption, were, in the modern equivalent, a punching of the reset button on centuries of freakish, brutal and often mind blowing interpretations of “God’s will” and that God sent his son down to straighten everything and everyone out.
Jesus, if you will, was God’s Cleaner; set upon this Earth to clear up the tonnage of misinformation and persecution, among other things, done in the name of God by power mongers and imperial-minded boneheads and tyrants.
From a personal standpoint: My son goes to Sunday School and is told that Democrats and Homosexuals are in league with Lucifer and are damned. My son then comes home and reads the Gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. The boy has questions. Lots of questions, that are hard to answer in a non-scurrilous way.
My son knows gay people. He has seen them as extended members of our family and has seen the way they behave. They are charitable, kind, generous, always helpful, the first friends to arrive when tragedy strikes and the last to leave in times of hardship.
My son knows his religious relatives. He hears them denounce and demean women, minorities, homosexuals, and the “different,” and he has questions.
He knows his old ward where my former Democratic Party position and activism made him the target of parents’ vehement discrimination, passed onto their children, and resulting in active persecution and ostracizing in the neighborhood and at school, and he has questions.
It’s sometimes too easy to blame the institutions of religion, or to shy away from individual targeting of hypocrisies and hate. It’s harder, and thus more intimidating, to isolate the general herd mentality and the dangers of common sense. Common sense lends excuses for any behavior or belief. It’s common. “Everyone else feels this way” or “This is how I’m supposed to believe.”
The common sense of fear has given us the destruction of Habeas Corpus.
The common sense of fear has given us the the torture of detainees, forever staining what America supposedly stands for.
The common sense of white exceptionalism has made, for so many people, the hated and distrust of Hispanics and ethnic Europeans, as well as the continued distrust of other minorities, part of the fabric of our American society.
The common sense of a dominant religion has given us an intolerance of those who have different beliefs (while this is not just a Utah, or a Mormon thing, we’re really good at here).
The common sense of economic panic in Utah, an economic fear bred right from the guts of GOP legislative behavior, from the Federal Government right on down to our local legislature, from massive foreclosures, one of the highest rates of bankruptcy and a middle class just struggling to survive has given us a disposition toward blame.
A common sense of blame, so against the teachings and the direction of the dominant religion’s central teachings, can only lead in a couple of different directions: massive guilt and malaise, or hatred and violence. Sadly, yet thankfully, Americans in general and Utahns, in specific, aren’t the massive crimes against humanity type.
The common sense of guilt, fear and struggle, I believe, has lead to Utah being the most depressed out of all the other states, and, since there were 51 contestants, I’m guessing Puerto Rico.
So, we’re all depressed, or, at least, heavily medicated. How many members of your family are on anti-depressants? How many people do you know that are hanging between making ends meet and financial ruin? We live in the new Zion, and it’s making us all blue.
So … what’s the solution? Ah, there’s the rub.
Change.
What is more terrifying than a GOP stump speech? Change.
Life is so terribly short and, for most everyone, devoid of purposeful direction. Are we really set upon a path of divine direction, locked for life in a pre-ordained muddle of mediocrity and constant struggle, or, is the gift of life a deeper thing; a opportunity to shine and grow and achieve?
Try something over the next month: Give.
It’s the Holiday season where the mass majority of this state’s population celebrate the birth, the life and the teachings of the divine son of God. So … go do some of that. Volunteer at a homeless or a women’s shelter, run a neighborhood toy drive for the Marine Corps Toys For Tots*, visit the infirm and read to the elderly, whatever: just Give. It will make you happy, I promise, but the flavor of happiness might not taste as sweet as you want it to. I can’t guarantee sweetness.
Oh, and don’t wuss out and just send a check … take the check to wherever and get your hands dirty (figuratively or literally, I don’t care). Work for the good of the community and enrich your life. Besides, it’s what Jesus would do on his birthday, and, you can quit feeling so damned depressed.









Does political volunteering count? What if we have both a Utah Food Bank box and a Volunteers of America box at the volunteer office? Ok, ok. I’ll see if I can find something extra that I wasn’t already doing, and maybe bring the kids along.
What a surprisingly beautiful message! Your post resonates with me and my own experiences. Well-said, especially this: Life is so terribly short and, for most everyone, devoid of purposeful direction. Are we really set upon a path of divine direction, locked for life in a pre-ordained muddle of mediocrity and constant struggle, or, is the gift of life a deeper thing; a opportunity to shine and grow and achieve?
We should never stop asking ourselves that question.
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I’m not on on anti-depressants, but any more blog posts like this before New Year’s and I’ll need some.
Not if you go do good deeds! They’re anti-depressants all on their own.
Misty – no, politics don’t count.
Bekkieann – Wow. Thanks.
rmwarnick – Ha!
Misty – exactly.
i loved this post, jeff. beautifully written..
Amen, Brutha Bell, Amen.
“The common sense of a dominant religion has given us an intolerance of those who have different beliefs…”
Ironically, you don’t come off sounding very tolerant in this post.
Just for the record, not all of us are depressed or on mood altering drugs. That being said; you do sound a little bitter, and some of your bitterness is my fault. I am sorry for letting you down and for not living up to the things I’ve been taught. (still not depressed though) It is my fault (and people like me) and not the church’s fault that you have been mistreated. Even though I have acted quite badly at times, I have always liked who you are, as you are. And just in case you have not heard this before…the dominant religion in these parts is not a hotel for saints, it’s a hospital for sinners who have great hopes of becoming saints, someday. I hope some day you can forgive us (me).
This post is the perfect commentary on the news story you linked to. Thank you.
Oh, dear. Bradley, intolerance isn’t when you put up with being made to feel like you’re going to hell or are a bad person because you’re different. It’s when you are the person making someone else feel like they’re going to hell or are a bad person because of their difference.
It really doesn’t work to call the intolerated “intolerant” for wanting tolerance.
Err, something like that. I think I just lost myself…
Bradley Intolerant of the intolerant – funny. You may throw the first stone.
jess – Thank you.
JC – And thank you.
Jeremy – and thank you, too.
Tina, I have a feeling that you didn’t read the articles that sparked this little missive (linked at the top) and that you may not have read the entire post. I hope this is true, because if it’s not, you completely missed the point and decided that the whole post was a personal attack on the Church and its members, which it isn’t.
However, yes, even when I was the biggest sinner in our tiny town, you were always very kind and never preachy, and I have always loved you for that (still love Julie as well, even though she WAS preachy as hell, so, I loved you more, see?), you should know that this has nothing to do with church folk like you.
As to forgiveness? No. I was fine and didn’t care, but when they started picking on my children? That was pretty much the very end of tolerance for the intolerant.
Misty – HA LOL
Tina – I also have the feeling you’re being a smartass, but, I’ll need confirmation of that before I’ll admit that you got me…
Nope, I am not being a smart***. I’m very serious. I have let my friends down. I have offended them and or made them mad (not with intent, most of the time). I am just lucky that my friends are forgiving. And I really am sorry for the times that I have let you down. And I do need to apologize. To you and everyone else as well.
My point is that all those “intolerant” people are also sinners (you know, Judge not….) and they all know it. Believe it or not, a good portion of those people really care about you and are afraid for the eternal welfare of your soul. The problem is they haven’t got a clue how to tell you. It is hard to really understand the other person’s perspective when you don’t believe the same things. And I mean this from both points of view.
I really want people to know, it is not what the doctrine teaches that is the problem. It is that the people who belong to the church, but don’t live it’s precepts.
No, I didn’t read the article. I did read your post and the comments posted here. So, to my second point. I did get the fact that this isn’t all about an attack on the church. But I am concerned that so many people are so bitter about how they have been treated. People have a real reason to be resentful and angry, especially when children have been harmed. And I am including all those who are adults now, but who were harmed as children. Reliving all the hurt feelings however, is like eating rat poison in the hope that the rat will die. It hurts you, not the people who have hurt you. That’s where forgiveness comes in. It affects you more than the other person. Ask JC about the “Let it flow, let it go” philosophy. He’s a very enlightened soul.
As far as the rest of the post, I didn’t comment because I didn’t feel it needed more comment. Very well said!
Except, I must add, for those who are depressed, not because of anything you did (because chemistry does get out of whack)ask for help. We all need help sometimes. Life actually is worth living. And you are worth it.
By the way, you were not the biggest sinner in our community. I don’t know who it was, but I’m sure it wasn’t you. Thank you thinking I was kind. I try to be. And thank you for the short memory (As you can see, I am a bit preachy). Most of all, thanks for loving me best. I won’t tell Julie, because I don’t want her to feel like she’s not the best. But, it does make me feel all sparkly and sunny inside.
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